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This is such a comfort video Were so proud of you 💜💜💜

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You are an amazing strong young lady. Kudos to you I wish you and your new family the best.

This is what jinns are obsessed: 1.Darkness 2.Perfumes 3.makeup I think thats all guys but u can Continue

Where is your husband from

He is a narcissist

Narcissists are born and not made, the child who inherits the non dominant genes from both parents ends up a narcissist period, its not something one develops by self, otherwise, most therapists would be healing them it's like saying can a good person turn into a narcissist because of environment, they can take peer pressure but can come to normal senses but narcissists Don't even have ability of consistency, instead addiction like alcoholism, immorality or over staying on social media as way of getting attention and control for they can't leave without completely having no control and attention, its like taking oxygen out of them.

Did your grandfather look after you at all?

Similar to my story except my husband did not seem to care about me at all. I wanted it to work really badly that i kept forgiving him and supported him financially. My marriage was arranged as well. We spoke few times before the nikkah. He used to be seem to be romantic etc but after the nikkah he never made me feel cared for and loved. He always seen my weakness and he would come in without saying the salam and go straight to his phone. We live in different countries and everything happened when i went to visit him during the summer. Our intiminate relationship wasnt good as well. He would go the whole day, come back around 7-8pm and then teach his siblings and during that time we never really talked, after he would want to have it and he never cared about my needs, he made me feel like i was just a sleeping toy. Before knowing that in islam the wife is not allowed to say no when the husband wants to have intimacy, i used to let him regardless i wanted it or not because i wanted to have his attention. And for the times i said i didn’t feel like having it, he would force it anyway even when i tell him that i was in pain. And whenever his desires were fulfilled, he would go straight to his phone. Also, he got female friends and once one of them called him and he left everything he was doing and spoke to her while we were both on the bed. He tells me that she has a crush on him but he was only trying to educate her about islam. When i came back from the holiday, i was the only one who used to call and text. There were couple of times i spoke to him about my problems which he called me impatient and crazy. There were times he said he would change, but never did. Onlt changed called me for couple of days after his mum spoke to him about it. Then things would go back to the beginning where i was the only one call ans texting, then after some time his mum would found out and talk to him again. We went in a circle. Until around 3 month ago, i decided to remove him from my heart so that i would not be hurt by his actions and speech. I stopped call or texting him. We didn’t talk for 7 days i used to continue how many hours since the last time we spoke. But when my dad found out, he wasnt happy so he asked his dad if he was forced and mentioned how he never calls me. After that he called me which im pretty sure it was because his dad knew and spoke to him about it. Around few days after that, he said he wasnt ready and asked me to tell our parents i want a divource and make up a reason for it which i told him no and told him and to talk to his dad. After 3 days he didn’t say anything so i told his dad. Basically before, i came back he told me he regreted the marriage and doesn’t love me. But being afraid of staying single and divorce, i asked him to try if he can until he is sure he regret the marriage. I was scared and still am (im still marriage, we had our nikkah last year july 2023). Im nearly 22 and most likely ill be having another arrange marriage if i were to get divorced and most guys from my country goes for younger girls like 16-19 who never been in a relationshio before. When i came back to the UK, i spoke to the eman about it who gave me advice on what i should do and it turned out ive been doing everything he adviced me but still tried again. Now ive tried so many times and after the last time before his dad knew about it, i just stopped liking and trusting him like before. But in that process currently i feel numb which is having a negative impact on every aspect of my life: study, religion and relationship with my parents. I don't feel anything but now i don't care whether he calls me or not, to be honest sometimes i wish he would not call. Basically since his dad knew about it which nearly made him have a heart attack, he has been calling or and texting way more than usually. He used to only call or text me around 10pm but now sometimes he calls during the day. But i guess because he last my trust and never showed that he cared and loved me before his dad knew about it, i belive he is only doing it before of his dad. He lives in Africa and his dad trying to get him visa and he really like money so he cannot have any of those without him. Since his dad knew about it, he moved him from the room where he used to sleep to an older room which he hates. His dad really want this marriage to work so i wouldnt be surprised if he is trying harder so his dad will not stop trying to get visa for him. I don't know why whenever we talk I seem to forget about everything knowing that he is most likely calling and texting me because of his dad. Im a hopeless romantic person as well and before the nikkah he shown himself to be a romantic person as well which is were my high expectations of him came from. But he made me feel like i can only dream of that nice and romantic relationship. When he mentioned the divorce, he mentioned how other guys will not like me because this and that. He called me disrecpectful for standing for what I believe. He only went to school to year 4 and been memorising the Quran but then i dont think he really learned much about islamic studies and way one treat other etc which i used to use as an excuse to his actions. Im very empathic person and like to please everyone so i always try to understand his actions and please him but he neve did which is very difficult. Thank you for yr inspirational story. Im sorry for everyhing you have been through. May Allaah reward you for yr patients and sister i am very happy that you are in a love marriage now. Hope that one day i and other women out there will have the same.

Why are you digging out your eyes when there's no water in your eyes?. Or is it because you're looking for attention on utube!! 😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅

You are so strong and you did everything right . If someone was wrong it was your family for not supporting you .

The culture of marrying off your daughters to strangers is terrible 😢 I hope this changes. So many women are suffering this fate

It was so similar to my story

I'm so sorry girl 🥺

Thank you for sharing 😢❤❤

I love u sis, fi sabilillah. I'm so happy for u! May Allah forgive all your mistakes and grant u khair and afiyah in this world and the next. Allah loves uh! I resonate with you. And Alhamdulillah Allah brought me out of it. May Allah always protect u and honor you and keep your family happy and safe. Aameen❤

i love it that you met your soulmate al hamdoulilah❤

IM SO HAPPY FOR YOU GORGEOUS WOMAN, LOTS OF LOVE 😘😘😘

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MashaAllah this was such a beautiful vlog. Have you made (Pai) made a vlog or podcast on how life was in Hawaii? We only get to see the beautiful beaches and all of that. But I wonder how the “real” Hawaii is… maybe a suggestion for the future! Salaams from Florida.

Assalam o Alikum I hope that you’re doing really well in your life . I just wanna let you know that I felt every word that you said especially the part where you expressed how you wanted him to love you and you worked so hard to get your husband to love you. I feel every word . I also understand , that being vulnerable like this would have been so hard for you . I cried while watching your whole video I got out of a really abusive marriage myself and I get how much it hurts when people look at you in disbelief. But they were not in that marriage or on the other end of emotional and psychological abuse, you were , they didn’t see you trying but Allah did. Don’t care about anyone’s judgement. I am so happy that you’re happy now in life . Stay blessed . Jazak Allah

Lovely vlog

Alhamdulilah you got out of that ❤ mashallah sister you did the right thing

Alhamdulilah you got out of that ❤ mashallah sister you did the right thing

Alhamdulilah you got out of that ❤ mashallah sister you did the right thing

Love Hawaii ❤️❤️❤️It’s a beautiful place in the world 🌎❤️Great awesome video thank you so much ❤️I really enjoyed every minute of this!🙏Beautiful family Thank you

Its so valuable that you shared your experience Sis🎉❤

Is weather in Hawaii better than weather in England? Do you now prefer to live in England or Hawaii?

Fifi was so gassed when everyone started singing ‘Happy Birthday’ 😂

We respect your privacy to keep your marriage private & other aspects of your life private. We fans understand that and we respect you. I feel like some things in life should be kept private because of nazar everyone has the right to a private life praying for pai grandma may Allah give her abundant health blessings amen 🤲

Looks like you had an amazing time!

So happy y’all got to take this trip. For Aysha to see your home, for Fina to see where half of her comes from and for Hassan to see experience you. Masha Allah

U were never wrong for talking to this person. U changed his life and he made u realize what ur worthy of. If thus hadn't happened then most likely u would've been stuck in that nonsense marriage for the rest of ur life. Alhamdulillah u got out of it.

Allah does not allow men to abuse woman ask anyone

I am 19 years old and I have been currently divorced it has only been a month. I was married through family pressure I wanted love emotional and physical but my husband was always narcissistic and emotionally and mentally abusive towards me he too used islam to justify his actions and so did his family but alhamdulliah he divorced me on his own but he tried to come back cried apologise threatened me blackmailed me but I refused to go back bcuz i know he and his family would abuse me more i was scared but now alhamdulliah i am happy

Engaged at 15 it’s an abuse in itself. At 15 you have more to do than to be someone’s wife. 😢

another female being a hypocrite.

SAME STORY HERE, I WAS 16 YEARS OLD, 1975😢

I really loved your video ❤. Even I was dealing a narcissistic person which I discovered after few months of my marriage. Even I was deprived of love and intimacy and basic minimum emotional needs. He was into other females.He was never supporting me, gave his family members the audacity to insult me. He didn't allow me to see my family. Always tried to pull me down. And many more... Actually it's never ending. And to add on it was not only him, but also his family members who were very abusive. I couldn't stay with him. And the condition you put up is so relatable. I can completely understand your feelings. Finally I have taken the decision to be divorce. And yes as you said as a physical torture leaves behind proves people only consider that to be a torture. Whereas mental torture are far more dangerous than this, which the people don't want to accept or believe. Happy to see that you are happy again. You deserve this. I was feeling very low today thinking whether I have taken the right decision of divorce, thankfully I came across your video and it reminded me that Allah has given the right to everyone to be happy and have the right to feel loved. Thank you, Jasmin. From India ❤

Subhaan Allah

Saw your story on snapchat and brought me here. I've learnt myself some things from you both from this video being a born Muslim. Sometimes us born Muslims need this too x

Thank you for taking action and for your patience. What you went through made you astronger woman and mother. Now you know what a good relationship is like. Thank you for sharing! Best wishes.

Social media can be evil. Married woman found another man on social media. That's cheating. The fact is she was cheating on her husband

Being with my ex narc for the past 10 yrs. made me observe this very pattern. I think they wanted to feel very important in a way that is disturbing. Instead of building trust with their intimate partners, they destroy the trust that they built with you (in that case lying when they tried to put you in their pedestal). Once they have a committed partner, they can’t stand being loved authentically by one person. Instead they go on and prey on other women that is susceptible to their love bombing. My ex narc was a compulsive pursuer in a relationship. He would go back and forth to the women he were involved before or try to meet women in complicated situation so that going public isn’t an option while having you as their main supply. In the end they destroy the very person that loved them. They are like toddlers testing your love for them. Showing and telling them you love them isn’t enough, they will cheat on your face to make you feel inadequate even if you are more than they deserve. They want to test your love for them so they keep hurting you and when you have enough of their abuse, you leave. Then they tell you, ‘you never loved me because you abandon me’. Well in fact it’s their actions and narcissistic behavior that made you leave or in other cases they discard you and will give silly reasons of the discard. Mine would use, ‘she’s crazy’, ‘she’s a nega-star’, ‘she insults me’, ‘she cheated on me’ et al. So with this pattern of infidelities and emotional abuse (who knows what else) it’s better to walk away. I did walk away and is now rebuilding my life with our daughter. We are struggling financially because I’m not earning enough to provide for my daughter but now we get to laugh and bring with us sunshine every day. No lies, no abuse and no fake love. We only live once, forgive yourself and move forward but never forget the lesson that narc abuse taught you. That is to respect yourself to walk away from what’s hurting and destroying you. That you deserve a life of solitude, happiness and love. Hugs*** :) Additionally I hired a private detective Metaspyhub@gmail. com. Once I knew what the narc was up to, it got easier to get over that lying, cheating, sack of doo doo, loser. I didn’t need closure from the narc, I paid for it. Best money I EVER spent!

Your story touched my heart, tough girl reminds me of my baby sister. Your husband now looks very handsome, happy for you sister!

Ladies these men do not deserve you.

"indeed with hardship... comes ease"

i'm so glad u got away. u literally sacrificed ur life and gave in to whatever he wouldnt allow just to make him happy and he still couldnt show u the least bit of love. thas all u wanted and he didnt even give that so it makes sense why u left.

You have the best husband ❤

Hold your position pai till i get her out.